Recently, it has become very clear to me just how important people are. Not politicians or sports stars or celebrities. Although, they are just as important. But I’m talking about you, whoever you are.
I was in a real funk the last day of the school year. I drive Reece and a friend of his to school every morning. For some reason I was just in a real shitty mood that day. I’m an emotional guy, I get in funks from time to time. That day was one of those days.
The line was extra long as many more kids than usual were getting dropped off. I sat, and drifted slowly, waiting for my turn to drop the boys off. I saw a familiar car a few cars back and promptly slumped a little in my seat so I wouldn’t be seen. Finally my turn at the front of the line had come and I muttered a “have a good last day” to the boys.
Just then the familiar car pulled up along side of me. I looked to the right and saw that their son, who is Reece’s age and friend, had joined them and were walking into school together. In the car was two of my friends, husband and wife, along with their daugher, who is also Tatum’s friend.
He joked and told me to get to work and we talked for a few seconds. Long enough to find out they had gone to breakfast to celebrate the final day of school. They went on their way and so did I.
But then something happened inside of me. I felt incredible! Chills ran throughout my body. I was smiling. I was happy. Clarissa must have thought I was a lunatic when I got home because not 15 minutes earlier I was miserable. Moping around like I just lost my dog.
The connection that was made for those 10 seconds altered my mind and body. It was like a shot of adrenaline.
The thing that is fascinating to me is that my friends don’t know about this. Unless they read this post, they will never know how valuable that meeting was to me. I only hope the sight of me was as meaningful to them as seeing them was to me.
There have been countless times that I have seen people I know….and completely and quickly walked the other direction. I don’t know why I do it. Sometimes I’m in a hurry, sometimes I’m just not up for talking to someone I know. I’m embarrassed to say this but I even avoided my own mother one time. Awful.
We don’t know how important we are to other people. You may be just the person that I need to see today. Just as I may be just the person you need to see. When I was younger I used to think that everything happened for a reason. That there is a purpose for two people running into each other.
Now that I’m older and I’m a little less of a dreamer, I’m not as certain of that as I once was. Maybe I need to go back to my youthful naive ways.
Another example of the power of interacting with people is my mom. The same one that I once saw in a store and avoided. My mom and I work together. It’s a family business in which my mom, dad and 2 brothers all work together. Somehow we make this work remarkably well.
My mom usually comes in around 9:05. Hey she owns the business, she can come and go as she pleases any time she wants. Every morning when she walks in my day instantly gets better. She greets me with a good morning and a smile. I know that no matter what happens today I already have a leg up. I am ahead.
She probably doesn’t know all of this is going on inside of my head. She probably doesn’t know how important she is to me.
I was relaying these thoughts to a friend recently and he told me I should tell her. Later that night I learned that his own mother had passed away. All of the sudden his advice was much more important. No person should not be told how much they are loved because time ran out on their life.
I think we need to understand that our presence may be the single most important thing to another person. A simple interaction could change lives. I’m trying real hard to stop avoiding people when I see them. I’m trying real hard to find the courage to walk up to friends and not walk away and hide. Because maybe, just maybe, there is something about me that will make your life, or even just your day, better.
I’m now thoroughly convinced that there is something about interacting with every one of you that will make life better.
I’m looking forward to seeing you out and about. In the meantime, call your mother. Tell her how much you love her.