Tatum and I have a little ritual. Lately, I’m sad to say, she has been better at keeping up with it than I have been.
Each night, after the bath and the teeth brushing and final potty trip and the book, Tatum will crawl into bed and ask, “Daddy, what are you grateful for today? That is always followed up with, “and daddy, what are you proud of that you did today?”
I freaking love it. It’s a good habit to get into. It allows us both to reflect on something we have gratitude for as well as something that makes us proud. What a great way to drift off into sleep!
Sometimes I’m too much of a grump to initiate the conversation. Sometimes I just want to say goodnight and run out of the room as quickly as I can. I’m not happy to admit that but it’s the case. Luckily I have her to keep me in check.
So I started thinking, what are 10 Habits a 5-year old can start at bedtime?
Here are my 10 ideas.
1. Read a book every night.
Try to read a book to them every night. I believe this helped my stepson, Reece, read quicker than he would have otherwise. It also seems to have impacted his love for books because you will rarely catch him without a book in his hands. He is a rare kid that seems to carry books more often than his iPod! Read with enthusiasm! Put on a show and watch them glow!
2. Say something you are grateful for and something you are proud of.
This allows them to reflect on their day. It also gets them in the habit of being grateful which will always be beneficial. Finding something they are proud that they did today will help them appreciate themselves and maybe even encourage them to do more things they are proud of tomorrow.
3. Say something that you did that failed.
We all want our kids to be perfect. But they are going to need to take chances and risks. Dealing with failure will only help them as they grow into young men and women. It’s a good idea that they learn to accept failure and think of ways to overcome them and how to avoid them the next time a similar situation arises.
4. Talk about a goal you have for tomorrow.
Is is too early for kids to have goals? I don’t think so. Why not get them started on this habit early? A goal could be something as simple as using a teacher’s name when they say good morning. Or ask a friend how they are feeling today. Not only does it get them in the habit of setting and achieving goals but it could also get them using good people skills.
5. Make a drawing of something.
For adults, just before bedtime is a good time to write down a few things in a journal. For kids that are still learning how to write, bedtime could be used as a time to express how they are feeling through coloring or drawing. We’re not looking to color within the lines of a coloring book but rather a free for all drawing or picture. A way for them to express whatever they are thinking about.
6. Say an Inspirational Quote.
I love quotes. Positive and inspirational quotes are whispers in your ear that remind you that anything is possible. There is an abundance of everything that we want in this world for us to have and to share. I see no reason why we shouldn’t be teaching our young children that this is so. Maybe start with this one….
7. Give 1 ideas as to how you can help someone else.
Get them thinking about ways they can help others. Maybe a friend is sick and they think of the idea to bring them soup. Maybe his teacher needs help rounding up her students for quiet time and he can help. It isn’t really important what they think of, just that they get in the habit of thinking of different ways they can help others.
8. Talk about 1 place they want to visit.
This may be my favorite. Our children cannot think that the world only consists of their house and town. Whether it be a small town like the suburb I live in or the biggest city in the country. When I was 21 I drove across the country, PA-OH-IN-IL-WI-MN-SD-WY-MT-ID-WA-OR-CA. It was one of the greatest 2 weeks of my life. My wife and I have taken our kids to Mexico, Puerto Rico and the Bahamas and there is still so much to see. Show them pictures and get them thinking about where they want to visit. And then find a way to make it happen!
9. Talk about 1 book you would write.
Writing a book is easier now than it ever has been before. Sure, it might just be an eBook, but it’s simple to do. The hardest part is putting the time in to do it. Most 5 year olds aren’t writing books but that doesn’t mean they can’t use that creativity muscle to think of books they would write! Just ask them and let their little minds wonder. Who knows what they’ll come up with!
10. Just hug and say I love you.
OK, I went easy on this one. Of course this is a good idea. But it’s one we can’t forget. Sometimes Tatum will call me back in after she is in bed and ask for another hug and kiss. The answer is always yes. We should always find the extra 30 seconds for another hug, kiss and an I love you. Think of how nice it is when someone says those words and shows that type of affection to you. I can’t imagine any better way to say goodnight than that.
What do you think? Could you use any of these ideas for your bedtime ritual? What other suggestions do you have?
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