That’s all that matters. There really isn’t anything else that’s important. I mean obviously you can’t just worry about yourself and no one else. You can’t walk around stealing and cheating and lying to make sure that you are happy regardless of anyone else’s feelings. And you will have bad days no matter what is going on. There will be times when you are just in a bad mood for some unknown reason. But overall, are you happy?
Andy Andrews will argue that being happy is a choice. A decision that you make. In his book, “The Traveler’s Gift“, Andrews suggests 7 decisions that you can make in order to achieve personal success. Decision #5: The Joyful Decision-Today I will Choose to Be Happy. Like being happy is a switch you can turn on and off.
If only it were that easy. Here’s the thing, I think it is.
I’m a big proponent of putting yourself in the right position. Plan ahead. Of course my biggest problem in life is that I rarely do put myself in the right position. Financially, I’m a bit of a mess. Do you think I want to leave my family for 5 hours on a Sunday to mix drinks at the Bistro? HELL NO!! It’s Sunday! I want to be home with my family on what should be the 1 stress free day of the freaking week!
I think there are a few things you can do to put you on the path to happiness.
- Hang out with positive people that will help you grow. These people should challenge you when you are up to no good, should praise your accomplishments and seek your advice when they are in need. These people will help you grow into the best person you can be just as you should help them in the same way.
- Exercise. At least a few times a week. Get off your ass and do something! Walk, run, shoot hoops, put a bunch of weights on a bar and throw it up in the air repeatedly. This Spring so far has been AWFUL! Cold, cloudy and windy. When the sun finally shines, the temperature drops down to 25 defreakingrees! But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t exercise. Create a plan that you can do inside your home. Just 15-20 minutes every few days will make a major difference. I was miserable this morning. I spent 20 minutes at lunch with a kettlebell and I’m a new person this afternoon. That is, I was until I had to face up to something I did wrong…
- When life smacks you in the face make a decision that you are going to be happy. Sometimes you are going to do something (or not do something) and you will get a much deserved punch in the stomach. It’s OK. Forget about the past, learn from it, own up to it but forget about it. Forget about it quickly and move on. Realize that you will not do any good with a frown on your stupid face. Put on a fake smile and when you notice it went away, repeat. Keep repeating until you fool yourself into believing that you are in a good mood. It wont take long.
Decide to be happy today. Try it for a few days and see if it works. We can’t stop the BS from coming at us. All we can do is change our perspective on it and try to make the most of it. Allowing it to bring us down only makes things worse. Life is too short and we have too little time with those we love to allow anything to keep us from making life as enjoyable as possible.
What makes you happy? How do you pull yourself out of a rut?