If you want to be Wealthy, study Wealth

Jim Rohn said that.  Actually his teacher, Mr. Shoaff, said that.  Mr. Shoaff was Jim Rohn’s teacher when Rohn was 25 years old.  Rohn has told the story many times about how he left college after a year and went to work.  At the age of 25 he had pennies in his pockets, behind on his promises to his young family, behind on his debts and just in all around bad shape.

He met Mr. Shoaff who took a liking to him and offered him a job.  Rohn became a millionaire in the next 6 years.

I’m listening to Jim Rohn’s “How to Have Your best Year Ever” audio right now.  Today he mentioned this idea that Mr. Shoaff gave to him during that 6 year span.  If you want to be wealthy, study wealth.

It’s mind blowing.  Such easy advice.  But as Rohn puts, it, it’s easy to follow but it’s also easy not to follow. We all have the information right in front of us.  Online, at the library, at the bookstore, on podcasts, on audio, YouTube, newsletters.  It’s everywhere!  All we need to do is take some action and go out and get it!

Another idea that Mr. Rohn presented was, if you want to be happy, study happiness.

Think about that for a second.  Have you ever studied how to be happy?  With books like “The Happiness Project“, “Better than Before” and “The Happiness Advantage” among many many others, you can find a ton of resources, references, ideas and ways to become happier.  Who wouldn’t want to be happier!!

But so many of us are not studying happiness at all.  We are just going through the motions, bouncing off of one situation after another one.  Never taking the time to master the skills that are available to us to become….happier.

If you are interested, here are  few techniques you can use to become happier;

  1. Meditate.  5-10 minutes a day.  Just sit comfortably and focus on your breaths.  There are a lot of people that can help you with this.  Just google “how to meditate
  2. Start a Gratitude journal.  Use the “5-Minute Journal” or just start your own.  I use a little notebook that my office hands out for free.  Try to feel the gratitude as you write things out.
  3. Give.  I read earlier today that when you give your time to help others it actually feels like you doubled your salary.  You get the same f
    eeling!!  We all have some time to give.  Be selfish, use your time to help out others and in return you will be helping yourself out.

 

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Do you want some ideas on how to be wealthier?  I’m just an amature but here are a few;

  1. Cut back on what you buy.  $2 or $3 lattes won’t add up to much.  But drinks and dinners out 3 or 4 times a week will!  Start a spending log and see if there are any ways to cut back on what you spend.
  2. Use that money for personal development.  What’s better for you, a few drinks out or a new book about how to make you wealthy?  Skip 1 or 2 nights out and instead spend it on something that will actually benefit you!
  3. “Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy wealthy and wise.” – B. Franklin. Another similar idea to this is the Chinese Proverb, “No one who rises before dawn 360 days a year fails to make his family rich.”  Develop good personal development habits like waking up early.  Spend the early morning hours reading, exercising, and writing.

 

That all I’ve got today.  Have a great evening.

 

Keith Laskey

 

11 Ways to Live a More Fulfilling Life

This post was created with my two young kids in mind.  Reece is 12 and Tatum is 6.  I hope they can learn each of these 11 habits and do them daily. I only wish I learned them when I was their age.

 

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1. Find Excitement!

Find something you can do everyday that excites you that will allow you to earn money.  It doesn’t have to be gig money.  Small amounts built up over time will turn into much bigger amounts.  This will help you discover what you like to do and also teach you different ways to make money.  Both of these are great things to learn especially at a young age.

2. Limit Drama

You don’t need it.  Not from your friends, not from your family, not from anyone.  However, it will come your way.  Try to avoid those that make your life difficult. If the person or people that make your life difficult is someone you care about (like a family member) try to have a conversation with them. Explain what they are doing that makes you not want to be around them.  It’s not easy but that one uneasy conversation could save you hours and days of massive uneasiness.

3. Exercise

Get in the habit of exercising daily.  You have a spare half hour to do it.  Block out the time and never allow anything to get in the way.  If you cannot find a half hour then do what you can do.  100 push ups, 100 jump ropes, a 2 minute plank.  Anything, just do something.  Never miss a Monday.  Always start the week off with a workout.  Never go more than 2 days without exercising.  Things will pop up and you will miss a day or two.  Don’t miss that third day though.

4. Read

Read 10 pages of a good personal development book every day.  You can read fiction as well but you should try to read at least 10 minutes or 10 pages of a personal development book as well.  This will give you good ideas on how to become successful.  It will also allow you to put yourself in company with uplifting and inspiring people through their books.

5. Communicate

This is big.  Communication with your friends, family, co-workers or classmates is absolutely vital.  We need to hear from each other fairly often in order to maintain good relationships.  People start to think that there is a problem if they don’t hear from you for a while.  Communication is especially important when there are issues.  It is NEVER better to sit and wait to have a difficult conversation.  You must have difficult conversations as quickly as possible.  Nothing is to gain by waiting.

6. Love

Love every day.  Love your sister, love your mother, love your father, love your friends, love your friend’s mother.  I’m not talking kisses and hugs (although if appropriate, feel free) but show compassion, empathy, care, interest, respect.  Remember the Golden Rule, treat others as you would want to be treated yourself.  Always be kind.

7. Feel and express Gratitude

It’s great to be grateful.  But it’s even better to show and express gratitude.  And it’s the best when you can be grateful, show and express gratitude and record your gratitude.  Start a gratitude journal by writing down 3 things you are grateful for every day.  Do it before bed.  You’ll be amazed at how much better life is when you are seeking things to be grateful for.

8. Enjoy things that don’t cost money.

Take a walk in the park or in the woods.  Take advantage of opportunities to catch the sun rise or set over the ocean.  Play basketball with your friends or horseshoes with your dad.  Read books, watch a movie on the sofa, go for a jog.  There are a ton of free things you can do with your family and friends that will bring you joy and memories for years to come.

9. Learn something new every day.

Every night before bed ask yourself, what is something I learned today?  We have the entire world in front of us with so much to learn.  Explore your interests, you can’t possibly ever learn everything about anything.  The more interests you have the better.  Keep learning.  And then teach what you have learned.  Even if it’s just 1 small thing every day.  There are others who have the same interests as you who want to learn what you know.  Learn and teach.  Everyday.

10. Write every day.

This goes along with the last one.  By learning something new every day you can teach others what you know by writing.  Start a blog and write a short post every day about what you learned.  You can also start a journal that will help you record your thoughts. You will have so many memories in your life.  A journal will help you remember exactly what you did and who you did it with.  Writing will also help you get your thoughts clear.  It will help you define your goals. It will help you understand what you like and what you don’t like.  Writing will help you become closer to yourself.  And that is always a good thing.

11.  Love yourself.

There will be a lot of times when you will feel all alone in this world.  No matter what, you must love yourself.  Always be there for yourself.  Never talk down to yourself.  No matter what, you have you.  You can’t live forever like that, alone.  But knowing you are there for yourself will help you get through many tough times.

 

My name is Keith Laskey. I actually believe children are our future. I write articles about how we can empower our youth so that the world will be a better place for all of us.

Success can’t be found without First Discovering Your Purpose

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What is Success?

 

 

The accomplishment of an aim or purpose.

 

So what is success to you?  

 

It could be anything.  If your purpose or aim is to be the starting point guard than you will have success if you are the starting point guard.  If your aim or purpose is to achieve straight A’s than you will have success if you achieve straight A’s.

It’s very easy to see HOW you become successful.  The problem is, most people don’t know what they are aiming for.  Most adults go to college, get a job and drift through life.  We don’t have anything we are shooting for.  So we coast through life on auto-pilot and end up completely off course.

Take it from me.  I am so off-course from what my ideal life is it makes me sick.  I should be by the beach somewhere in California.  Or at least Florida! Instead I am living in Pennsylvania.  Don’t get me wrong, I have a good job and a decent house with lots of family and friends.  But it’s not exactly the ideal life.  Not the life I would have chosen had I been given the chance to choose.

And that’s exactly where I’m wrong.  I WAS given the chance to choose.  We all are.  It doesn’t matter where you come from.  You can decide where your life goes. Even if you are in your 30’s like me.  You can always grab the steering wheel and make a turn.  Even the slightest turn can turn things around for you.

 

The best time to get started, though, is when you are young.  The younger the better.  The sooner you realize that you are in complete control of your life, the better off you will be.

 

So, that’s what Success is.  It is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. It doesn’t matter how BIG or small the purpose is.  You get to choose.  But you must make a choice.  Or else you will find yourself spending your time creating success for someone else.  Time is your greatest resource.  Do not waste it creating success for someone else when it can be used creating your own success.

 

How do we find Success?

Now that we know that Success can only be found if we accomplish an aim or purpose, we need to discover what our aim or purpose is.

 

 

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In order to have Success, you must know exactly what you are aiming for.

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How to find our aim or purpose?

 

This can be challenging.  We all know what we don’t want or don’t like.  We can all create a long list of those items.  But what do we like?  And, even furhter, what do we like so much that we want to make that or purpose in life?

 

There are several ideas for figuring this out.  Here are a few…

 

What topic do you always look for in the Library or bookstore?

If you always go to books about sports or history than you clearly have an interest in those topics.  Be aware of the things you are interested in and find a way to use that to determine what your aim or purpose is.

 

What do you have the most fun doing?

One idea on finding your purpose is to think of what you had the most fun doing when you were younger.  Think of yourself as a young child.  What did you enjoy doing the most?  If you are an adult, what do you have so much fun doing that you would do it for free?  Anything you think of can be turned into a successful career.  

 

What are you good at?

What are some things that you are really good at?  This is where your purpose in life most often intersects.  What you are good at and what you have fun doing.  When I was younger I used to love talking with my friends about life.  Problems, theories on why we are here, God, is there an afterlife or not.  I was also very good at listening to other’s viewpoints as well as expressing mine even if there was a disagreement.

 

What do others say you are good at?

Sometimes it is difficult for us to see what we are good at it.  It’s human nature to have self-doubt.  That’s when others can help.  Do other people tell you that you are great at something?  Listen to them, they most likely aren’t just messing around with you.  

 

Identifying your purpose is absolutely essential for your achievement of success.  Without a purpose you will never know if you are on course or not.

 

 

Action Plan:

Identify your purpose.  Why are you here?  Who can you bring value to? Who do you want to bring value to?  How can you change the world?  We all have that power.  Identify it and take action!

 

My name is Keith Laskey. I actually believe children are our future. I write articles about how we can empower our youth so that the world will be a better place for all of us.

 

Success through the Art of Communication

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Communication with others

 

This is important.  This topic is a big one.  We all talk way too much.  We spend our conversations waiting for the other person to finish talking so that we can express our viewpoint.  And those are actually the good conversationalists!  Most people don’t even wait for you to finish.  Most people have no problem with interrupting you as you speak.

This is not how successful people handle their conversations.  Successful people listen, intently.  They realize that the person they are listening to is the most important person in the world, at least according to that person.

Just like you feel as though you are the most important person in the world.   Just like you want to be heard and want to feel comfortable expressing your opinions.  

Communicating well with others will set you apart from everyone else.  Most people won’t take the time to learn how to make others feel important.  We find it refreshing when someone comes along and is able to have a decent conversation.

 

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Here are a few tricks for making others feel important.

 

Always use a person’s name.  

Let me guess, you aren’t good with names?  That ends now.  There aren’t many things as important to a person than his own name.  It is the sweetest sound you can here.  Using the names of people will immediately set you apart.  Whenever you are introduced to someone, always say their name back to them to make sure you heard it correctly.  Use it once more before you leave the conversation.  Writing it down on a notebook at that point will help tremendously. 

Yes, a notebook.  You should start carrying a small notebook to capture ideas as well as names of people.  I use a water’s book because it’s cheap, small and a bit of a conversation starter.

 

Smile.

Do you prefer to be around someone that is moping or upbeat?  Someone negative or positive?  Someone with a big frown on their face or a giant smile?  Of course, it’s the same for all of us.  Smiles are infectious and it’s one thing worth catching.  Try to always smile when around others. Especially while talking.  Smiling while talking has an unbelievable effect on people.  

 

Get people to talk about themselves.

We all have a lot going on.  And we all want to talk about it.  The problem is, as I mentioned earlier, no one listens.  So we are left unsatisfied when we talk with others. Getting people to talk about themselves solves this issue.  Ask questions about them.  What do they do for a living, when is their birthday, what are their hobbies, what do they like, dislike, what’s their favorite season.  Anything to keep the attention on them. All of this information will be valuable to you.  People open up like flowers once you show an interest in them.

 

Pretend no one else is in the room when speaking with someone.

I have had this problem.  A wandering eye while talking with someone.  There are distractions everywhere.  People talking, phones buzzing, it’s not easy to keep your attention on one thing for an extended period of time.  But when talking with someone it is essential.  Focus.  Understand the importance of every interaction.  The benefits of being known as a good listener and conversationalists are tremendous.  And even if you offer nothing more than your attention, eye contact and two listening ears, you will always be known as a great conversationalist.

 

Compliment.  Never criticize.

Bad news, criticizing doesn’t work.  It actually has an opposite effect.  Criticism will make the the person you are criticising resent you.  They will not want to be around you and eventually they will avoid you altogether.  No one likes to be criticized.  But we all love to be complemented. You should always, ALWAYS, find a way to compliment someone.  Females are particularly easy.  Shoes, hair, outfit, purse. Anything can be used with a female.  Males are a little bit different, it may take a little more work.  But you’ll find something.  Complements are gold.  Use them to your advantage.

 

Becoming a great communicator is invaluable and cannot be overstated.  People will want to be around you which will lead to more opportunities and more success.  It’s also a very easy thing to master.  Just incorporating these 5 ideas will change everything for you.

 

Pay attention to others as you talk and as you overhear other conversations.  You will start to separate the good communicators with the bad.  Congratulations.  This is a very valuable lesson to learn.

My name is Keith Laskey. I actually believe children are our future. I write articles about how we can empower our youth so that the world will be a better place for all of us.

What Wikipedia doesn’t tell you about the Rat Race

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The walls are starting to close in.  The window next to me is going to hit me and break.  My skin is getting tighter and I feel like I’m suffocating.

The stack of papers is getting higher and higher.  Not just the to-do pile but also the done pile.  I don’t have the motivation to get up and do anything.

I try to start but I just can’t.  It takes every ounce of energy I have just to open up a webpage and attempt to do the work.  I can’t quite get there.

My short hair is sticking up in ten different directions from my yanking at it.  My back hurts from pathetic posture.  My teeth hurt from clenching them together.

I’m in a rat race.  The one you always hear about.  The one everyone tell you to avoid.

I’m losing the race.  I’m somewhere in the middle.  It’s more of a labyrinth than a race.  Who the hell would want to win this race?  There are no winners.  Only losers that spend the best years of their lives walking around trying to find the way out.

Not me.  I can’t do it.  I can’t make it to the end.  There is no champagne waiting.  I can picture who will be waiting for me at the finish line.  A pathetic unhappy version of myself.  A man that is so pissed off at myself for wasting his entire life.  A man that will punch me in the face when he sees me.

That’s who’s waiting for me.  Hate and disappointment.

I’m looking for a helicopter to throw me a rope.  I’m like the guys in Unbroken floating along in the Pacific trying to get the attention of fighter jets 30,000 feet above them.  The only one that sees them is an enemy fighter that shoots holes in their raft and forces them to swim with the sharks.

 

You Will Not Be Rescued

No one is coming for you.  People are trying to save themselves from their own rat race.  They can’t help you.  And those who have escaped are doing their best to stay out of the race. They don’t want your rat race energy to affect them.

You won’t be saved. At least not because of someone throwing you a rope.

 

You Need to Climb the Walls.

There is a wall to the left of you.  It’s the same size as the enormous wall to the right of you.  The trail in front of you is twice as long as the one that got you here.  You can run as fast as you want, it won’t get you any closer to the end.  You need to scale the wall.  Choose one and start climbing.

Take slow steps if you want but keep climbing.  Each step will get you closer to the top. Closer to your edge of glory.

 

What if I Choose the Wrong Wall?

It’s possible you will get to the top of that wall and find you chose the wrong side.  You may hate what you see.  Make the trek back down and start again on the other side.  But keep climbing.  A path you enthusiastically create on your own will always be better than one that you walk down with reluctance and dismay.

 

How do I take the first step?

Decide where you want to go.  This is absolutely essential.  You must have a destination in mind before you start.  Think of success like a GPS.  You need to plug in where you want to find success.  Picture your end in sight, see what is on the horizon just above that wall. Recognize where you are at this moment.

One giant leap won’t get you from here to there.  It’s going to need to be a slow steady pace.  But like the tortoise you will get there.  Each step you take will get you closer and closer.  But remember, distraction will take you further away.

 

What do I do now?

Your journey begins today.  No matter where you are in the rate race, if you want to get out of it, your journey must begin now.  For some people it’s losing weight, some want a higher income, some want an entirely new job or profession and some want a better relationship with a spouse or children.

Whatever your goals are you must begin now if you’re going to achieve them.

 

It doesn’t matter what your goal is.  Whatever success means to you, it is possible to achieve it.  Here are the steps you need to get started.

 

  • Create a goal using S.M.A.R.T.  A Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time Specific goal.
    • Although your goal should be achievable, realize you are capable of much more than you think you are.  Dream big, shoot for the stars.
  • Believe in yourself.
    • You already have the power within you to achieve all of your goals and desires.  You must believe in yourself or you will be stuck in that labyrinth forever.
  • Take small steps to help you achieve your goals.
    • Success isn’t found in giant leaps that occur once in a while.  It is achieved in small unnoticeable steps taken daily that, over time, compound.
  • Realize that you are 100% responsible for your success.
    • People will help you along your journey and others will try to keep you down.  But your success is a result of the actions that you take.  You and only you determine your level of success.
  • Always strive to be better.
    • Remember these two Jim Rohn quotes, “Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better.” And “your level of success will seldom exceed your level of personal development.”  None of us have reached our pinnacle of success, especially not me and you.
  • Find someone who has found success and learn from them.
    • Learn from those who have achieved success in a similar field and mirror them.  Reach out to them and find a way you can help them.  Allow them to mentor you through their past work.  Read their books and articles, find similar successful people and do the same with them. Remember, success leaves clues.  Find the clues and solve your own success mystery.
  • Take Daily Actions.
    • Take at least 1 daily action to get you closer to your goal. Taking 5 daily actions will help you get there closer.  But whether it’s 1 or 5, you must take action daily.

 

The best way out of the Rat Race is to avoid it altogether.  Good luck getting out if you’re already there.

 

-Keith Laskey